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> When in doubt, kiss the boy/girl

I got slapped in the face doing that in middle school.

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In either case you have removed ambiguity, which is cause of suffering.

True, I guess I learned first hand "fail fast".

You learned first "hand."

These days you'd just be suspended and accused of sexual harassment.

http://edition.cnn.com/2013/12/11/living/6-year-old-suspende...

The first thing I thought when I read this one, "Someone is going to rip sama apart on Twitter for his binary mindset."

There's always an idiot or twenty five thousand that completely fail to see the point in their rush to find something to be pissed off about.

It's really the loss of none but their own, and it's just too bad that they consistently fail to see it.

Serious question, not meaning to be a smartass or offend: why don't more people try the line "Can I kiss you?"

They don't want to come across as a creep.

The only people who will find that creepy are the people who will slap you if you try it without consent.

That's just not true. I've seen women online, women I know irl, who have said things along the lines of, "If you see a woman alone in a coffee shop, don't talk to her." Meanwhile, the same girls will complain about how men never talk to them. I see this more and more often within the latest wave of feminism.

I see women on Twitter complaining about "creeps" all the time even when they aren't doing anything I'd consider creepy.

HN isn't really the place to get into a long conversation on this, but your comment supports even more the idea that the easiest way to kiss someone is to simply ask for consent before you do. Some guys have this idea that "Can I kiss you" will complicate things or kill the moment, but I've seen no evidence that that's true. It's four words, and saves you from the problems that come up if you kiss her and she wasn't comfortable with it.

Better than not doing it and forever wondering "what if".

I guess Sama covered that one too from the "don't regret" ;)

Better for the kisser, perhaps, but presumably not the kissee.

ah, but it was worth it :)

Not really, it was just a face kiss and she slapped me pretty hard :(

You still had the right idea in middle school. Slaps in the face stop hurting sooner than regrets do.

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