A person who follows a path laid out for them by others from the age of four without veering will encounter challenges later in life involving self-direction and identity. 'Set for life' is a dangerous delusion.
Everybody has to deal with living up to their parents' hopes and dreams, and we all manage somehow. Certainly there's plenty of room for improvement on all sides, but if you're looking for a special sympathy for the upper class, you'll not get it from me.