100 Days as a Black Man in Silicon Valley
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I am based in Europe, and I do think there is less of a cultural division amongst races here. People appear to pigeonhole themselves into categories more in the US in my opinion, be it on race, job, music tastes or whatever.
I'm full stack dev living in London, I'm black, huge afro, piercings, english is not my first language, skateboarder, into punk music, etc.
In order to improve society/business/whatever we have to change it, and we can only change it by bringing in ideas that are different to what we have now. That is best done by people who offer different perspectives on what we're doing at the moment. In the case of tech, that's women, ethnic minorities, LGBQT+, non-tech, etc.
The thing that really must change in order to get society making the best tech possible that really impacts lives in a positive way is that we need to break the 'privileged white male' echo chamber that keeps coming up with the same dull ideas. That can only happen by filling the chamber with more people who aren't privileged white males. And I say that as a privileged white male.
On several occasions I've joined a company and been the only diversity carrier. I can't think of a single advantage beyond PR (I make group photos look more diverse, yay!) that my race has given the company. Any such advantage is miniscule in comparison to the advantages gained by my knowledge of statistical significance, multiple comparisons, regression and the like.
Realistically, if you wanted to add diversity of thought, you'd be far better off hiring a Frequentist of the majority race than a Bayesian of a different one. And if you wanted real (harmful) diversity of thought, you'd hire a magical thinker rather than someone persuaded by evidence.
For instance, in some places (you may be aware of ;) there is a societal bias that heterosexual anglo men are hyper sexual. That they are literally untrustworthy due to it is not an uncommon bias. It is an easy jump from that bias to an implicit (or even explicit) belief that it is better NOT to hire engineers to build streaming event architectures who are constantly thinking about sex and therefore to build a pipeline that biases against heterosexual white men. A company that did this, intentionally or not, is at a disadvantage when hiring because they have removed from the applicant pool people for the wrong reasons.
A company that instead was blind to that bias (or actively worked against it) would therefore have a wider pool to select from.
Even 1 counter example is often enough to change the biases for everyone who encounters them. So the company that hired 'yummyfajitas' and realized either A) he is not hyper sexual or B) he is but it doesn't impact his ability to perform the task is more likely to detach the wrong biases from their hiring pipeline and this has a multiplying effect.
Substitute "women aren't as good at math", "older people learn technologies slower", "black guys don't research as well" or whatever other bias you want.
Also, you know, sometimes we should do things because they are the right thing to do.
I'm hiring a data team. Based on the applicant pool it'll probably be me and 3 Punjabi males assuming I hire purely based on ability [1]. My claim is that I'll get no marginal value out of hiring a Maharashtrian, an African or a westerner over an equally qualified Punjabi. I provide no special western perspective on Kafka.
I also don't know why it would be the "right thing to do" to hire a Maharashtrian relative over a Punjabi - but that might be because I don't believe in group rights. If you do, I'd love to know how you choose which groups are relevant - there are, after all, 2^{6 billion} subgroups of humanity.
[1] I take pains to do exactly that - I skip resumes and look at github, follow scripted interviews with objective criteria, etc.
I'm a fairly loud, direct person. I work with other loud and direct people. We added someone to our team who is a bit quieter and quite frankly thoughtful onto the team. The effect wasn't so much that (s)he changed our technical decisions, but that we as a team started to give people apace for less confrontational disagreement. It improved our individual abilities to communicate and approach a problem from multiple angles.
That is why diversity in personality is important. The hypothesis is then that race/gender/etc is correlated with intellectual diversity.
Anecdotal evidence yes, but something I've found valuable.
No, it's not. Which is my point.
If you want to make the argument that racial/gender/etc groups think differently, be my guest - but that also implies that an unbiased hiring process might have disparate impact. E.g., if onion2k's hypothesis that women are more emotional than men is correct, then a hiring process aiming for rationalism might hire fewer women.
If there were a systematic bias against westerners that meant they were unlikely to apply for, get callbacks for, or be able to work in your environment with Kafka, actively removing those impediments is an opportunity. The larger the population being biased against and the more acute the need for applicants is, the larger the opportunity.
Framing this as a "hire one person over another" or as a "rights" issue is incorrect. Many of the systematic biases can be corrected for in ways that either don't cost the unbiased set anything, or provide advantages to that set as well. Further, this is an issue of courtesy and empathy, not rights. No one has the right to my courtesy or empathy, but providing it broadly is the right thing to do.
I don't see how the work environment is made better by my presence. I'm not going to be any nicer to minorities than my majority coworkers. And quite honestly, if someone of my race considers the environment better because they have a firangi to talk to, I'm unlikely to get along well with them.
For instance, sick child care disproportionally falls on women. So more women (of course not all women) view flexible hours, flexible sick time and flexible work from home options as major benefits. In many instances providing those things is a net improvement for everyone (including the business productivity) but it isn't as obvious in cases that don't experience the problem (like places that don't have as many parents generally or women specifically).
I suppose improving this environmental factor can be viewed as a PR move (which frequently has a pejorative tone, but I assume you are not applying that) but it also can have intrinsic benefits even if it never causes someone to think differently about the company.
In fact, heterogeneous preferences w.r.t in-kind benefits are an argument for workplace homogeneity (and heterogeneity across workplaces). Women who want flexible hours can go work for a company providing flexible hours. Dudebro neckbeards can work for a company providing unlimited redbull, videogames and vodka even after normal working hours. If they work at the same company someone's pay is reduced to cover benefits they don't use.
Your position on this implies that a) we all know our preference around in-kind benefits b) our use of in-kind benefits is static, predetermined, or correlated job moves c) the provision of in kind benefits is zero sum and/or d) in-kind benefit decisions can be optimally designed.
My position is the opposite on all of these cases. There are many in-kind benefits that I didn't realize were great until I received them because someone else wanted them, the utility of these benefits varies over time and is not correlated from employee to employee (and the homogenity required to correlate them would be hugely detrimental in other resource allocation ways), and that the optimal benefit strategy is often emergent rather than designed, and that the more inputs into the system we have the better the emergent behavior is.
Finally, being polite and showing empathy would also follow your rules about zero sum behavior and workplace homogeneity. I'm curious what that implies about your position on general civility and empathetic behavior in the workplace.
...bringing in ideas that are different to what we have now...In the case of tech, that's women, ethnic minorities, LGBQT+, non-tech, etc.
I wasn't responding to this:
...bringing in people who are superficially different but think the same way in order to manipulate the media...
Obviously PR matters and I'm happy to let my company exploit my race for that purpose (though I probably wouldn't have taken the job if I thought that was a significant factor). But that's completely tangential to the original point.
This sort of stereotype probably has the predictive value of a D20 roll.
Phil's an 11, I spit in his lunch. Nancy is a 19, no problems expected.
Having a more diverse team that includes someone with a more emotionally-driven perspective could lead to someone asking the question "Is the way we're manipulating user behavior actually ethical?"
This isn't about finding different technical solutions to problems; it's about finding different problems.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3108582/
http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal....
And most emotionally driven ethical discussions on HN lean towards popularity contests - compare the outcry against online harassment of that gamergate girl to the online harassment of Charles Carreon (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charles_Carreon), for example.
But even if you are right, what does diversity in the traditional sense of your post above have to do with it? Are you suggesting that women/LGBTQ+ people are more emotional and less rational?
Geez, I really hope that that was just an unfortunate turn of phrase. You can't possibly mean that non-(white-males) have a quote "more emotionally-driven perspective", do you?
There is a big difference and yes, "manipulating the user" is sinister.
That's not a lie or bending the truth. It is manipulating the user.
It sounds like you are decorating the showroom to boost sales... I hope it works out well for you. I was thown by the initial desciption that sure didnt sound like faces and buttons: "I'm streaming realtime events and then running statistical models on the datastream in order to manipulate user behavior."
But hiring just for the sake of filling some imaginary quota some confused people have in their heads is a bit ridiculous. Want to change it? Start at the point when young people decide which school to pursue, rest will follow
My problem with your post is that you stereotype white males and claim to want to get rid of stereotypes. You, yourself are concentrating on skin color, gender, and sexual preference when we need to be concentrating on the best person for the job regardless of any of these.
"That is best done by people who offer different perspectives on what we're doing at the moment. In the case of tech, that's women, ethnic minorities, LGBQT+, non-tech, etc"
Why do we need to single out all of these people and claim they are offering something "different"? Shouldn't we be fighting for equality and not special treatment for individual groups of people?
This isn't the first time I've seen this sort of thinking. I feel like many people are not fighting for equality, but for power and special laws/treatments for their specific group.
"In order to improve society/business/whatever we have to change it, and we can only change it by bringing in ideas that are different to what we have now. That is best done by people who offer different perspectives on what we're doing at the moment. In the case of tech, that's women, ethnic minorities, LGBQT+, non-tech, etc."
I disagree with most of this. Yes, to improve there needs to be changes, but these can come from anyone. Even though I'm not gay, I can still support gay rights.
We shouldn't require companies to hire anyone that is not qualified for a position. If there aren't enough qualified people of X group applying, then we need to figure out why and improve it (education, culture, etc).
Can you elaborate on the definition of "privileged white male"?
That isn't that sort of background that everyone has, but it is the sort of background that 90% of people in the IT industry had. Consequently IT professionals tend to have somewhat skewed notions of what the world is like. Changing that would make it more likely that people build things that make a positive impact on society because you can't fix a problem if you don't know that it's a problem.
So, by your definition there should be "white non-privileged people" as well, right? This means we shouldn't talk about black, white, etc. people but we should talk about having more non-privileged people in tech?
I like this thinking but I don't understand what should be the mechanisms for making it happen. The only universal (both for privileged and non-privileged) unit of measurement I can think of is talent. Which brings us back to square one - we need more talented people in tech. Which means that people who are responsible for hiring other people should not only look at prior experience, education, etc. but should also be able to discover talent. Which is hard but I think that's the right direction.
Am I right?
Many SF authoritarians would rather support the latter, even if they don't need help, simply based on skin colour, and a limited life experience that equates 'white' to 'middle class American'.
Thats what the discussion about privilege is really useful for. Keeping it in the forefront of your mind (especially if you are successful) that many people have similar capability/potential as you, but they experience different circumstances that can radically alter the outcomes.
My favorite saying to remember is "He thinks he hit a home run in life, when he was born on third base."
Looking beyond experience and education is vital (but very hard).
Why can't this idea of collaborating with outsiders work for the industry as a whole? Why must everyone be able to do everything?
That depends on whether what we are doing now works or not. Change for its own sake rarely does good in the IT industry.
What is the difference in required skill sets, between what we do now and what we should be doing?
I think this can reasonably be split into two basic tasks: find (and sufficiently define) a problem to solve; and given a problem / set of constraints, find a good solution.
Which task is different between "now" and your ideal, and how does that difference require different skills?
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In order to improve society/business/whatever we have to change it, and we can only change it by bringing in ideas that are different to what we have now.
This assumes that we're not already changing it. Also needing different ideas on what things to do, is different from needing different skills on doing those things.
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That is best done by people who offer different perspectives on what we're doing at the moment.
Or, by asking or watching those people (all the million-and-one ways that for-profit companies do market research and user research and such).
In the case of tech, that's women, ethnic minorities, LGBQT+, non-tech, etc.
No. It's whoever has problems that need solving. Which has nothing to do with tech, and everything to do with the fact that "improve society" above seems to mean "moral progress".
Probably the best thing that happening in this regard right now, is the push for police to wear cameras. (So shouldn't that mean that the tech for this has been developed with higher-than-normal participation by non-rich-white-techie-dude people?)
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The thing that really must change in order to get society making the best tech possible that really impacts lives in a positive way is that we need to break the 'privileged white male' echo chamber that keeps coming up with the same dull ideas. That can only happen by filling the chamber with more people who aren't privileged white males.
No. The echo chamber has nothing to do with who's in it, and everything to do with who has enough money to be the target demographic.
Either raise awareness that other people have money too (or can have money if they buy (on credit) what you're trying to sell), or convince people to work for social good instead of a paycheck.
Even when I was a teenager and had a mentor it took me 2 hours by bus in the Miami heat to meet him just 1x per week. Some of my fellow, richer, friends had cars of their own and would drive to meet their mentors or join them for lunch. And it's those small barriers that create the giant hurdle.
At the moment, I'm mentoring my younger siblings, nieces, and nephews who are on their way to college. Being the first in my family to attend university I'm hoping to help them avoid the pitfalls that I encountered when going to university.
Your `you get more black ppl in tech by having black people in tech` sounded exactly like one of those Xzibit memes: a joke!
Secondly, this comment hit the nail on the head. Let kids pursue fields they are interested in, regardless of their race or sex. Don't hijack a person's career to serve your moral crusade.
Second, I'm going to take your comment to point out something I've noticed when talking about sexism/racism. I'm going to call this theory of mine "Calibration". When I hear people say stuff like "What about letting [underrepresented group] choose what they want to do with their lives?", I've come to believe that most are not trolls and they're probably not actually actively racist[1]. It's a difference in calibration. Perhaps you believe by default these kids are at a neutral(zero) level and have the full power of choice right now. But, what I see is that society actually puts them at like a negative 5. You see these efforts as forcing them to go into tech, a +5 if you will. I see it as just bring them up to 0 from the -5 society put them at so they have the same sense of free choice you & I do.
This vid I think is also based on the calibration idea when it comes to "Reverse racism" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dw_mRaIHb-M . Basically, it talks about the underlying assumption that the current state of things is neutral for everyone so any effort to improve standings for a group is unfair to the groups not getting help. It's like how every year on Google+, when the LifeAtGoogle account posts something like Black Appreciation day during Black history month, someone always asks "When is White appreciation day?". Or when people talk about BlackGirlsCode.com, someone says "I bet everyone would exploded if we had a WhiteMenCode.com event". And of course, from there said comment turns into a multipage thread of madness. I think part of this is because schools(or parents of students) don't teach enough about the negative parts of American history and its lasting effects. So we have a bunch of people saying "Slavery ended years ago, everything is fine now. Stop complaining." Or similar, "Women can vote now and be CEOs of companies. Stop complaining". The assumption being that everything is equal now and the only thing between anyone and their goals is hardwork & discipline. While that is mostly true, some people have to work twice as hard to get the same recognition and reach those goals.
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1. One exception though, I have no idea what is going on with the HN user yummyfajitas. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=8613711
He doesn't fit any model of any logical position I'm familiar with. I'm pretty sure he's __not__ racist/sexist, but he just blows my mind.
My own calibration settings for this is reading a bunch of comments on stormfront.org forums. While I dislike yummyfajitas's comments, they don't give me the same feeling I get from stormfront. I don't know what to think of him. Closest thing is perhaps super-insensitive, but I don't think he's oblivious to how people perceive his comments.... I dunno.
What your anecdote appears to describe is economic inequality, not race inequality.
I live in Ground Zero of identity politics, so I don't get to see people with your opinions often.
Thank you!
And you've just confirmed in your own self-description that you're not adding all that much diversity regardless of what you look like. Remove the "I'm black" bit (and ok, the afro), and the description matches countless devs.
Diversity is not "bullshit", neither from a social-economic perspective, nor from the perspective of the strength of the teams we are a part of.
But in the real world, we need to try different things to get talented people, it is not only white men who have important stuff to offer.
I'm sure there are other occupation with the same thing. There are too many Fillipino in Nurse career I don't see any body saying to diversify it. There are tons of Vietnamese in nails, my uncle and mother included. I don't see people saying that there should be other race within such jobs. You can argue that it's not a great jobs but what about nursing?
We can encourage more women and minority within a field which is fine. But to make it seems like a problem is a problem. Because of this people such as women will use this as an excuse. Look at the CEO of Reddit, she used this and sexism as an excuse.
So before we jump the gun and say such thing such as racist and sexist, we should carefully find the cause and not jump the gun. We do not know if this is intentional or an unintentional the consequences of culture.
I mean hell there's a lot of Asian going to university and a lot of less other color such as Black. Is it because Asian are racist against other races? No, it's culture and the Pew report for Asian Americans have backed this up. That Asian American parent believe an education is important.
Have a paper from 1997. It's about how after they changed to blind auditions, the number of women hired as orchestra musicians rose severalfold. I'm sure you can draw your own conclusions.
http://www.ashedryden.com/blog/the-ethics-of-unpaid-labor-an...
In contrast, I think most of those who oppose the diversity activists (e.g. myself) strongly favor such approaches ("death by standardized brainteaser", hire by github, work sample tests).
However, did you even read the article that you linked to?? Someone posted a link showing that if you blindfold people (so they just listen to how people play), you end up with more women in orchestras. The Ashe Dryden article is about how using open source contributions as a sole barometer of 'merit' leaves an awful lot of talented people out in the cold.
The only point where she mentions anything close to your point is when she says that many female developers use androgynous sounding names and won't put pictures of themselves online.
My claim is that most activists in tech don't really believe that bias is the cause of underrepresentation here. As evidence for that, observe how few such activists actually favor purely meritocratic hiring.
a) Ask for code samples.
b) Pair as an interview.
c) Hire as a contractor before you make an offer of employment.
She does not dispute the existence of bias, rather she makes the point that valuing open source so heavily makes technology less of a meritocracy.
The entire article is about how using github (i.e. evaluating code with the human absent, i.e. the closest thing [1] we currently have to blind auditions) is "biased" against women.
[1] Maybe we'll have something closer when starfighter comes out. I look forward to it.
I can't speak personally about race issues in tech. What I do know is that the industry thrives on ideas, and as people themselves have diverse ideas, missing an entire group's is missing a lot. Why isn't the field more racially diverse? Are black people 'naturally not interested in tech'? Or do they face social barriers others don't? What I know leads me to believe the latter.
'people such as women'? Poe's Law has bested me on this one.
"such as some women like CEO of Reddit" would be better. The original does make it seems like all women.
So there's the whole problem right there. Never mind right or wrong. Its just statistics and bias in group dynamics, nothing more.
So it's a lot more convenient to get more white and asian women into tech without having to deal with the greater systemic wealth and income disparities that effect black candidates.
That's definitely not all of it, but even if you believe, as a number of people on HN seem to believe, that there is no more racism in hiring for qualified candidates, this is something you can't really deny, that systemic disadvantages in income and wealth mean that black people are going to be under represented among qualified candidates. In fact, I recall hearing that the wealth gap between whites and blacks is bigger than in south africa during apartheid [3].
[1] http://www.epi.org/publication/trends-median-wealth-race/ [2] http://www.forbes.com/sites/danielfisher/2012/05/02/poor-stu... [3] http://www.blackagendareport.com/content/worse-apartheid-bla...
Let's assume California needs more black people in tech. Does China need more white people in tech?
I also believe segregating help is not the best idea in the world but lets face that is not so clear cut.
The stupidity!
The Muslim history of slavery is quite interesting, for example.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anthony_Johnson_(colonist)
That said, I think given the task they're faced with, they tend to form very expansive support networks, which are useful for career-wise.
See, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3rqnUg_Myo
Can we stop using words with demonic connotations like "sexism", "racism" ? People tend to naturally discriminate against people who are unlike them. The usual propaganda makes this all the worse.
What we need is meta-education, which teaches people the limitations of their own biological selves, not Marxist "revolutions".
Now, that's probably not the actual drive for the strong push for women in tech (equality, fairness, etc), but a case could be made for it.
Oh well... at the end of the day, all you can really do is, as they say, "Be so damn good they can't ignore you".
That sounds pretty understandable to me. I don't feel like there's anything wrong with that.
But, maybe I'm just putting too much stock into things I read here on HN and in startup related blog posts and articles. I haven't spent that much time in SF/SV and surrounding areas, so maybe this is just a filter bubble thing in effect.
Are they considered to be something special in the Southern states ?
Special? No, why would they be "special"? The point is that they're fine schools; on par with good schools anywhere else in the country - but not necessarily "elite" schools like Yale or Harvard. But some people seem to have this "thing" of acting like having gone to school in the South singles you out as some barely-literate, uneducated hillbilly. This is far, far from the truth. That's all I'm getting at.
That said, there are several Southern schools that help make up the original group of "Public Ivies"[1], including three of the schools named above (W&M, UNC-CH and UVA).
[1]: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Public_Ivy#The_original_Public_...
You realize that most engineers do have a college degree right? You realize that most engineers are not dumb script kiddies who went through 10 PHP tutorials to learn how to code?
"I definitely feel like my high school guidance counselor dropped the ball on that one."
Yeah, cause please don't take any responsibility for not doing the work of thinking and planning your own future.
This doesn't match the dialogue I see here and other places about college graduates and/or job candidates who can't fizzbuzz or have no other skills required in the industry. Although I think it would be nice if we simultaneously had a steady supply of skilled engineers, constantly increasing salaries, and constantly increasing demand.
Just to be clear: I don't think all developers need a degree, but I think there is much more than just attending a 4 week codecamp required to become a good developer. The author makes it sound so trivial and easy.
Prove it. That has not been my experience in hiring at all.
So for instance, in my empirical observations, candidates from top tier engineering schools largely perform more poorly on fizzbuzz than candidates with no college experience what so ever. This observation was so largely opposed to my existing bias that it caused me question fizzbuzz as a qualification tool.
My investigations into this found lots of things that made me think that fizzbuzz is a bad tool (even though I had very high biases towards it in the beginning).
The lesson I took from that, was not "don't use fizzbuzz" even though I don't anymore, or "people with no college degree are better candidates than those from top tier universities". It was "small sample sizes make nearly all statements about hiring trends dubious." So "prove it". Is my default answer to that sort of statement.
(as an aside, still waiting on Zed Shaw's boot camp destruction)
What bothers me most is the idea that coding is just a random skill that anyone can pick up over a weekend just by reading an O'reilly book. There is a push to make coding look easy, "anyone can do it, why not you?" "Let's teach it at school, even a 4th grader can pick up python". The goal is clearly to increase the supply and help tech companies drag wages down. But coding is not easy.
I may be foolish but to me developer is a creative work, akin to writing a book, or a song, or painting. Not everyone is gonna be good at it. Would we say "yeah writing poetry is easy, just go to a poetry camp for 4 weeks"?
I feel like if you took all the positive statements out of your article, and put them together, you'd make one hell of a first impression in a conversation:
"I'm a Tesla-driving lawyer from an elite boutique law firm! I just moved here to pursue my dream of working in tech! I love SF and I'm here to stay!"
If I heard that from an interview candidate I'd be really impressed.
That might give more perspective on the startup scene, and help to establish credentials. A law firm would understand the quality of his education and experience better than some small startup.
I'm really the last one to call for mandatory lengthy education, but there's a reason I'd usually agree that people having studied Computer Science and worked in the field for few years tend to know certain things people that "learnt to code" don't.
But yeah, maybe the valley is different and there's a huge market for people learning stuff for a few months and rightfully making a lot more money than I do in Europe :)
There wasn't even a token Black, Asian, or Indian in the company photos I saw.
Under the assumption that the tech industry has a higher average IQ than the population as a whole, then in a world free of any sort of discrimination, one would expect to see blacks underrepresented and Asians overrepresented.
This isn't a fun fact to discuss; I don't intend any sort of disrespect towards people like the author who are most likely smarter than me. But it's one that needs to be accounted for in discussions about race.
1. http://www.udel.edu/educ/gottfredson/30years/Rushton-Jensen3...
More importantly, the concept of IQ is a myth: there is no single measure of intelligence, different neural networks coordinate verbal vs reasoning vs short-term memory abilities, etc[3][4]. That one test (based on solving certain classes of problems at most) is still being extrapolated to assessment of overall intelligence and used to somehow differentiate people is ludicrous.
[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arthur_Jensen#Criticism
[2] http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.174...
[3]http://www.thestar.com/life/2012/12/19/iq_a_myth_study_says....
[4] http://www.owenlab.uwo.ca/pdf/2012%20-%20Hampshire%20-%20Neu...
The obvious criticism is, the classes measured in so-called 'Jensenism' are defined by cultures as well as race. What attempt has been made to disambiguate that?
Which is good because:
a) he's on the front page of HN
b) he's available for tech legal roles
c) he seems like a pretty capable guy
This is the most racist thing I read whole day.
Racism exists everywhere. Living in Japan has been the first place where I've lived as a visible minority and it has been an eye opener. Being obviously different is hard in many ways. There are people who stare at you, or people who wonder if/how you are different from them. There are people who are afraid of you for no reason other than you are different. Very occasionally there are people who are abusive and rude, but most of the time it is mostly a mixture of ignorance and curiosity (and maybe a little bit of fear of the unknown thrown in).
It can be quite a problem for some people. Many people take offence at practically anything and can't let anything slide. They feel it is morally wrong not to take a stand about being treated differently. They feel you are morally wrong if you happily agree to be treated differently.
For me, probably like a lot of people who read HN, I have always been different. I have never fit in anywhere. Even though I was visibly the same as everyone, my way of thinking, my religious beliefs, my values have always been different from the norm. I suffered greatly in countries where everyone assumed that I was the same as them. As a visible minority, I am free to be different. It makes me happy even if sometimes it causes problems.
"Expats in Japan frequently question why I would live in rural Japan with people who don't look [and by extension, think] like me", would be a true statement for me. In my opinion this is likely true of any visible minority population anywhere. It definitely hurts me and I suspect it hurts the author as well, which is probably why he wrote about it in that way.