Tokyo Tyrant: Is it Durable?
mysqlperformanceblog.com
mysqlperformanceblog.com
I've done some similar testing of my own to see what the performance impact of using libraries' mechanisms for flushing writes to disk and found I could get pretty decent performance results.
However, I think this type of testing can prove that something isn't durable, but not being able to prove something isn't durable by observation doesn't imply that it is durable.
The only answer I'd really trust would be something along the lines of SQLite's testing strategy. Those guys get it right.
This topic is mostly section 3.3, but there's a lot to test.
It should be stated that there are tools for MySQL that enable "automatic" fallback for MySQL: http://code.google.com/p/mysql-master-master/