Ask HN: How to leave my current job

You don't owe them anything. Just look for another job, and when you find it tell them you are leaving. If they really want you to stay they will make a counter offer that you may or may not accept. If you don't accept their counter offer, just give them your notice.

Never accept the counter-offer. Nothing will change. You will just get some extra cash at the end of the month.

If you're willing to post on HN about leaving your job, you are ready to leave your job.

The trust is clearly gone. You hold no obligations to your company outside of serving a two week notice period. I wouldn't raise the fact that you're looking for a new employer because that will put your current position in jeopardy. The best thing to do is to land a new job, hand in your notice, and leave. Never burn bridges, because you never know if you'll either end up working with that person again, or working with someone they know.

You don't owe them anything.

They don't show you the same level of trust that they expect from you. Nowhere close.

If it's important to you, and okay with your new company, give your current employer a little extra notice. But don;t feel obligated—only do it if it's important to you.

Thank you all for responding. It really helped. I will definitely just give 2 weeks notice and not except anything but what they owe me (yea, they actually owe me a few paychecks). From this perspective I should have left long time ago, but lesson learned.

And regarding the data, I don't really care about it. Yeah, I could sell it, and they could never prove it that I've done so, but I don't want to stoop that low. Not my thing, and even thou they were not fair to me I don't feel like doing that.

It's the easy option to opt for retaliation. I'd advise against if only to keep your own principles strong. If you value openness, talk to them. If they cannot find a replacement during the two week timeframe then they may ask you to stay on longer. Use this as leverage for fairer pay during that period (unless you already have to move into your new job). If they do not offer more, then stick to your principles and leave. That is the fair and just way of handling them without weakening your own moral code. And finally, good luck!

One approach: http://www.folklore.org/StoryView.py?story=Are_You_Gonna_Do_...

Leave. Treat them as they treat you, promise you will find someone to replace you and then don't and leave. And don't tell them anything util you are ready to do the move.

Give 2 weeks advance notice + offer them consulting beyond that (at 2x-3x your current rate) to help train the replacement and for smooth transition.

Everybody is happy.

Leave and sell the data if you can do it legally. That's what the business owners would do if it would make them some extra cash.

Empty promises are usually a sign of deep trouble. And people that make them create very toxic environments. Hoping people change is just wishful thinking. It's who they are. You can't change them with words. And usually not even with actions.

Pack your stuff and prepare for the inevitable downfall. Because it really is inevitable at this point. And keep in mind that some bridges are worth burning.

Even if it's legal to sell the data, I would not, because he said or implied he wouldn't. He's not the business owner, so he doesn't own anything.

Don't sell the data. It isn't worth the risk of a lawsuit. Even if you are in the right, a lawsuit is horrible.

Just find a new job and give 2 weeks' notice.