There is never an "easy" way to do this. But in the early stages of your venture, there should be very few battle making decisions. Lead by persuasion and team-building. You're only 2 people and don't need a general calling the shots just yet. In the later stages, your role as CEO should emerge from your ability to lead and pursuade. Go 30/30 with vesting, add an options pool of 20% for later employees and 20% for early stage investors. If you are both starting from scratch and equally committed to the venture, the even split is fair and reasonable. But that is a conversation you should have with your co-founder and not us. Be honest about the shortcomings to your potential marriage. Good luck.