There lies your miscalculation. You use the underutilization of the network (~1.1tps currently) to calculate a transaction cost and you claimed this cost cannot decrease (you said "processing more transaction will or should not lower these costs"). But as it is, the network is in fact capable of processing 7tps, therefore the true minimum electricity cost of a transaction is ~7x lower than what you claimed.
"1 GHash/J"*
This is a second but smaller error. Miners currently average closer to 1.5 Ghash/J, so that is another 1.5x decrease in your calculated transaction cost.
These 2 errors (7 * 1.5 = 10.5) explain why your calculation was 10x off.
Regarding micro payments, opinions are split but personally I do not think Bitcoin is well suited to them, or even needs to be suited to them to be a successful transaction processing system. So a $0.60 or $0.06 electricity cost per transaction is good enough right now, keeping in mind cost will go down as the block size limit is increased and as chips become more efficient in terms of Ghash/J.