The whole, whole point of her article is that, in that action, you're not choosing love, and won't get it.
Read the last sentence of her article again...
Read the last sentence of her article again...
I fully expect that I will be "spontaneously" bombarded with these questions on dates in the coming months. And they will lose all efficacy because people will prepare for them in the same way that they prepare for idiotic brain-teasers and HR questions.