First Children Are Smarter, but Why? (2013)
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This is slightly different than the divided-attention and lazy-parent theories.
There is evidence we learn more when we get answers wrong, not right. It's reasonable to assume then the more children you have the more right answers you eventually have as parent. And the same goes for a first child. You are both surprised when something goes wrong and you both learn from it.
The problem is, the parent doesn't necessarily need to be learning more as they have more children, so they take the shortcut of not letting younger children get answers wrong. They don't let them get surprised. Parents don't give younger children as many chances to screw up.
In my case (I have a sister) the outcome was different too, I was a much better student.
Example, and I'm sure a lot of people can attest to this: In high school, I know someone who had a 4.0, took honors classes, but her standardized test scores were garbage in comparison (23 on ACT after 6 months of paid prep.)
Is she a bad test taker? No, she's not, hence why she had a 4.0. But when she's challenged and cannot slave away at her desk at home for 8 hours a day after school, well, yeah.
The time we spend gestating has a huge effect on our development and is completely independent of the "momentary genetic dice roll" that happened immediately previous.
[1] Sources referenced in the index of Matt Ridley's 1999 book "Genome": Vines, G (1997). Where did you get your brains? _New Scientist_, 3 May 1997: 34-9; Lefebvre, L., Viville, S., Barton, S. C., Ishino, F., Keverne, E. B. and Surani, M. A. (1998). Abnormal maternal behaviour and growth retardation associated with loss of the imprinted gene Mest. _Nature Genetics_ 20: 163-9.
For that matter, I'm the eldest of 4, although I'm sufficiently genetically distinct (phenotypically very close to my father) that that's undoubtedly the greats part of why I ended up the smartest by a lot and got into MIT.
Hmmm, for that matter, as a member of the class of '83, I too don't remember explicitly telling them that....
Or maybe I'm misremembering this, it was a quarter century ago; my friend interacted with a large fraction of the undergraduates (EECS) and would through that have gotten a rough but good picture of this sort of thing over the years. But I'm pretty sure I remember us going through some paper files and coming to this conclusion.