I haven't used Loopback, but I can emphatically say "no" to Sails.
If you need websockets, check out http://socket.io
My problem with Node is that it's really hard to learn a code base and really hard to debug. In other languages, I can CTRL+click to get to definitions of classes and methods. I never realized how important that was to me until I was trying to read the Sails code. It was like following a maze.
I now use Node as a very simple API layer when performance is absolutely a necessity, but I don't start with it. There's a reason there's a new [x language]-to-JavaScript transpiler announced on HN every day.
As for the developers, I was just disappointed that they would ship something so broken. It would be better not to publish it at all, or to keep it on the dev branch, than to publish it in that state. I also like to use libraries with lots of third-party activity, and it seemed like only 2 people were committing to the Sails code base.