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jbob2000

I really liked this part, and if there's one thing I'm taking away from the article, it's this:

> "Actually, praise may not be the optimal way, but we are so praise oriented. We can ask the child questions about the process: “How did you do that? Tell me about it.” As they talk about the process and the strategies they tried, we can appreciate it. We can be interested in it. We can encourage it. It doesn’t have to be outright praise."

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This is one parenting technique that seems to be a part of a lot of different parenting classes, philosophies, &ct. but is, IMO underused.

Most kids crave attention from the adults they look up to. Merely paying attention to something and expressing an interest can be hugely rewarding without needing to praise.

The flip side of this is why parents who have busy schedules for one reason or another often have kids with behavioral issues; the only reliable way for the kid to get attention is to piss off their parents.

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