I think it would be awesome/helpful if you and your wife explained exactly why you wouldn't use it (with brutal honesty) and what would have to change for you to want to use it.
I am not a KS marketer, nor do I pretend to be one. What has been your marketing outside of KS? Did you try to promote within Kellymom or any of the "new mother" facebook groups? Is it bad form to purchase ad space for a KS campaign?
I did a blog post last spring where I asked several people I know about the campaigns they ran. Feel free to take a look: http://michalsen.wordpress.com/2014/04/01/kickstarter-how-it...
I think it would be pretty cool to do a follow up blog article on re-imaging a campaign. Let me know if you are interested.