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The problem is that women don't use sites where they are in charge and make all the decisions. So you get a catch 22.

(EDIT: Before anyone asks, of course it's been done. HerWay comes to mind. The userbase is miniscule.)

That's a bit of faulty induction going here. Just because one site didn't work doesn't mean it will never work. There are all kinds of other variables involved, maybe it was just the execution. It is certainly insulting to say that women don't want to be in charge or make the decisions.

I've looked at sites that try the empower-the-women-depower-the-men approach. With depressing reliability, they all wind up re-introducing the ability for men to initiate contact.

That's quite suggestive. It's not perfect, but it's far from meaningless.

Also, just because it can be read as insulting doesn't mean it's not true. If we want to identify and address problems, we have to deal in truths. If it eases your conscience any, I can edit in verbiage to make extremely clear that I as speaking solely to typical behavior in the arena of online dating.

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