I don't really see how this is feminism. I do think that supporting women in tech is a noble goal, but "considering user needs in the design of a system" never struck me as a uniquely feminist concept.
If it's a feminist value, and that's how OP comes by the value... isn't that good enough? Seems like that's a fine way to arrive at human-centric design?
OP's point is actually broader than just human-centric design too. She's not just talking about consideration for users, but also a manner of collaboration w/ other developers too.
(Blaming users, male or female, is inherently anti-feminist.)
A patriarchy is not "a power system" or "a system of authority". It is a system in which males are in power.