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My wife has a successful career in federal court and I'm a CTO/Co-founder of a startup that became a medium-sized company. The impact of having a baby in our careers was insignificant.

Yes we split the responsibilities, but being really honest, if you fail in whatever you are doing because of a baby, you would fail without it either. I would even say that a baby might even make you a bit more ruthless when it comes to making money and doing things in general.

Yes, you won't have time for yourself, you will sleep less and will look miserable for a while. But I'm pretty sure raising a baby is the greatest thing I'll ever do in my life.

That said, to be a power mom you just need a power partner.

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It's really great that it works out for you, but PLEASE,

> if you fail in whatever you are doing because of a baby, you would fail without it either.

For most people, it's literally like saying "If you fail in whatever you are doing because you don't get enough sleep, you would fail with enough sleep anyway."

Yes, that's kind of my point.

So lack of sleep won't cause more failure?

It's bullshit. In what world does adding additional difficulty never induce failure?

> The impact of having a baby in our careers was insignificant.

That depends entirely upon your minimum standards of parental involvement. Many would argue that the wet nurse/live-in nanny set qualify more as custodians than parents, per se.

To each his and her own, but you're being a bit myopic.

> That said, to be a power mom you just need a power partner.

I can't tell if you're being sarcastic here.

We did hire a nanny, we both work 7 and 8 hours a day the rest is spent with the baby. As our baby sleep almost half of the time we aren't home, we lose just 4 or 5 hours of parenting time on weekdays.

Not sarcastic at all, What I was trying to say is that most power moms are really moms that have support of their partners.

You are talking to a guy who moved to the US from Denmark for nine months before my wife and son came over here so not casting any judgement here just a heads up.

Your baby wont continue being a baby and before you know it they are awake most of the time when you are not around and asleep when you are.

I see many parents who end up seeing their kid for maybe 1 hour a day after they reach the age of 3.

In almost every household, at least one parent works 40 hours/week. Is that person not parenting? Are you aware how many hours are in a week? That children go to school?

yes but read the parent (no pun intended)

" if you fail in whatever you are doing because of a baby, you would fail without it either. "

Try and switch those two around:

if you fail in being a father because of whatever you are doing, you have failed having a child.

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