I'll hold off sharing links but will give you something much better... my approach and whacky theories.
TL;DR - I focus on the creative layout potential of html documents. I avoid abstraction layers that force dependencies between unrelated components that may inhibit layout control and design. To use css grid frameworks in production is to me like leaving the scaffolding on permanently and calling it a feature of the building. It's like leaving your camera on fully automatic, never taking advantage of aperture.
I need confidence in the HTML/CSS foundations. When kept as a "single column" the whole way, with rows or bands of div modules stacked, and whose inner divs don't share vertical alignment connections with any other band or row, suddenly you have the freedom to explore ideas on the page with as much or as little inter-connections as you design. The requirement of course is that you enjoy the craft of HTML and CSS.
"Alignment" is not hard. You don't need to enforce new structural rules simply to get things to align. A lot of developers do like that grids do that work for them. But I don't, and it's probably a personal preference, and also depends on the project.
I find grids afford less scope for change later. Sure, you can "add new content" but with questionable precision in placement. If nobody cares, and it saves you time, then do it. I just don't do it.
It's how my brain likes it. And I really enjoy using divs in combo with positioning in combo with floats and fluid control. It's fun, healthy and good technical investment to construct the detailed behaviour of your responsive template, to own the template is to trust. Grids take away the fun of having page elements do exactly as you wish. Because you're permanently compromising, you cease to notice you're compromising as "the grid" becomes the norm.
There's a forever "don't forget the grid" question mark hovering over your shoulder, and over the designer's shoulder. "But we can't break the grid" is an awful discussion to have with designers.
There's personal preference at work here, and I prefer unlimited publishing and html design freedom. Not that my job in the corp environment always offers that! With incredible CSS technologies available, I don't want to cage them up.