Surely as an Irishman you are familiar with the Wales, and Northern Ireland?
I agree that the chip on the shoulder attitude does exist in Scotland, but I don't think that independence is the magical solution you propose.
I am also Irish, and there is a very similar sentiment towards the English in people here, yet we have had our independence for generations now.
I think that the solution to that kind of sentiment is to work more towards inclusiveness. Again I think we have a perfect example of this on our doorstep - we have only started to make progress with the troubles in Northern Ireland when politicians sat down and started working together.
I don't know what side of the debate I side with, but it sounds to me like you have bought all the emotional rhetoric that the yes campaign have been selling.
I fail to see result of the vote having any great consequence for Scotland, they will still be EU members after all.