New York is a place that forces you to accept that human life is mindlessly, ludicrously, and inexcusably unfair. It's not there in the abstract ("lifestyle" shows about rich losers, poverty on other continents) but quite visible, every day. It's in front of you, and it's not easy to accept, but after a while you learn from it and tune out the idiocy, while keeping the insights that make you a better person.

In the suburbs (and the mentality that is now dominant in San Francisco is suburban, because the locals have been priced out by fratty douchebags and basic bitches) people have enough distance from what's going on that they don't have to acknowledge the facts of social injustice. They can persist in the delusional belief that "the rich" are more successful versions of themselves, and not preselected winners who've had social connections and resources delivered to them since before birth.

I don't loathe "California", insofar as many people I like live there and it's a big state with some beautiful national parks. I'm just disgusted by what it has become, and especially by the utter defeat of the technology/engineer culture in Silicon Valley at the hands of MBA C-students and people flushed out of McKinsey.