I for one have moved to a triclosan free liquid hand soap but a lot of toothpastes continue to contain it.
The best (least unhealthy) liquid hand soap I have found is Deep Steep. The best bar soap I think is Kiss My Face Olive Oil Soap (messes up the soap dish though) or Grandpa's Love-My-Loofah Chlorophyll & Green Tea.
My dentist told me that Colgate Total was better at killing plaque-creating bacteria due to its use of Triclosan.
I just found a FAQ from Colgate about the use of Triclosan in Colgate Total [1] -- here's a short excerpt:
Colgate Total® toothpaste is uniquely formulated with 0.3% of the antibacterial ingredient triclosan to fight harmful plaque germs, which are the cause of most common dental problems. Colgate Total® is clinically proven to work better than other toothpastes to reduce these germs that can cause the gum disease gingivitis.