> But when someone is moving closer/further away from you (as probably happens when you're a stationary photographer among dancers) the ability to not worry about what's in focus right now seems huge.
But the subject is still moving quickly - the Lytro can't compensate for that.
Dark, high movement indoor scenes (dancing, sports, etc) are always some of the toughest situations to shoot in, and are probably one of the times where gear can make a substantial difference between getting a "passable" shot and getting a completely unusable one.
Stop down as much as you can, zone focus, push the ISO up to maintain the minimum shutter for the activity at hand and shoot. You can get push ISO higher if you're not looking to print big (as in, 16x20" and up) too, which can help give you more breathing room.