Hacker News Reader

Intellectuals have been known to give terrible relationship advice. They have their theory and they apply it. You can't hold them responsible when it blows up for you. I don't have advice on what to do, but mix a good dose of common sense and your experience of human nature in with Eric Fromm.

Edit: It sounds to me like you are rationalizing and intellectualizing.

Parents who truly loved their children would let their children pick others as parent figures if it's what would make them happy. I think there's a difference between that love and romantic love.

If that's what you believe, wouldn't you also say that true love is not sleeping with other people if it makes your love unhappy?

"You love me, so you allow me others; but I love you, so I will not take them."