Why should the language control the underlying data store to that level? Also, SQL itself is not defined by or defines ACID principles. You can (and some people do) run SQL over very non-ACID databases (everyone using MyISAM or SQLite?)
I personally feel that tying the data-store so close to the query language is a recipe for unneeded complexity. Though, the transaction isolation levels may be close to what you're talking about (though, I don't think there is anyway to tell a db like PostgreSQL "Go ahead, lose this. I don't care about it".)
> SQL is superficially simple, but at scale the simplicity is a lie. Thhe performance trade-offs you make require you to understand the internals of the database you're running on and how it interprets the query, and often you feel like you're dealing with a too high level API. Often you're resigned to "tricks" to force the engine to do the right thing, like optimizer hints, special index types or denormalized data.
Please tell me of anything where it isn't true that the more intimately you know your tools the better you can use them. Quite honestly most query planners are really friggin' good at what they do (just like a compiler, or are you a person that still claims hand tune assembly is the answer to everything).
EDIT: PostgreSQL does allow unlogged tables that are not crash safe, though I don't think they're randomly lose rows, but are faster. So there are some semantics that allow you to control that, but they are probably vendor-specific (getting into my complexity argument). Thanks Myon on #postgresql for pointing that out.