How to Cure Your Social Anxiety in 30 Seconds
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Instead of focusing on other people, focus on creating an internal positive state within yourself.
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This is it everyone, the field of therapy is dead. Let's destroy all the benzodiazepines prescribed for anxiety, and simply give out a piece of paper with this article on it to everyone who ever seeks help for panic attacks!
Will this solve everyone's problems? Absolutely not. But, don't immediately discredit a technique due to a knee-jerk reaction, look into it and form your opinion after researching it, not before.
If you're referring instead to feedback techniques to curb anxiety responses, that is used in legitimate therapy.
Neither of those represent the content of this article. Furthermore, it suggests that anxiety can be simply reasoned away in 30 seconds. That is insulting to anyone who has ever had anxiety.
> When you focus only on boosting your internal state, your social anxiety will disappear.
That is the line I drew the connection from. The first part of metta is to focus on yourself before moving onto others. Again, I explicitly said it would not work for everyone (and I disagree with the word "cure" both in title and text), but to outright dismiss everything about it is equally absurd.
Furthermore, one of the larger benefits that people find in meditation is that they can more easily detach themselves from their emotions, which could allow them to see that they are not only their emotions and may have more control over how they respond to emotions than they previously had. None of that cures anything ... but, it can help an individual in showing them that they have more control over their internal state than they had previously believed.
The real win with it is that you can place a widget on your homescreen with 1) the number of days in a row you've reached your daily-duration goals, and 2) your all-time best chain. So simple but so effective.
The philosophy has done wonders for me. When I'm paying the proper attention, I can take a bad situation and make it positive just by deciding to relax my body, release my concerns and realize that happiness is something I can decide to feel no matter what else is going on.
Vipassana, samatha, and jhana are a bit more complicated than that, but it's enough.
1) Other people can tell you are having social anxiety.
Oh, ya, that makes me a whole lot less nervous.
2) Stop having anxiety. By thinking really hard about it or something.