I made a motivated and reasoned argument that Islam obviously have problems with extremism -- and it is in an all or nothing approach, hard to skip parts of the craziness.

I didn't argue that even the majority of muslims in the West are extremists, in e.g. Bosnia they had modern Islam. (But do check statistics in different countries about antisemitism, homophobia, etc. Also, see support for AlQ, before they started to kill too many muslims. Or the high number of votes for religious parties in many/most muslim countries.)

You answered by calling me intolerant and discussed how attitudes hurt yours/others feelings. Those aren't arguments, it is emotions. My girlfriend gets away with that, I expect better on HN.

If you want to move, consider Sweden.

The media there stamp Denmark and Norway as racist/fascist influenced (those are certainly on the top ten lists of most tolerant countries on the planet). The media is at the same time much, much milder about the intolerance preached in many mosques, so they have insane double standards. The Social democrat party almost put an islamist in the party board, until the media for once reacted. But don't worry, it is only religious homophobes and antisemites which are courted for votes, not right wing ones.

(And yes, this comment is certainly enough to stamp me much worse than religious people refusing to shake hands with women.)

You'd fit right in. But the long winter dark is painful.