Take a look of the following which is my on-line book in progress. One of the chapter is entitled "How to turn your VC into your worst enemy".
At the end of the post, there are quite a few links for comments from successful entrepreneurs on their experience with VC's. My own advise is to deal with VC's as what they are, not what you think they are.
Do not romanticize, but also do not demonize.