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> When I run into an issue that fires me up, I write the nasty email. Except when I’m done, I don’t hit send.

This is one of the most important things you can do in the business world. I really wish I've learned to do this much earlier than I did.

It's actually a common method used in psychology to deal with things requiring people to act, or exist, in your life like they never will. It gives you closure to read that letter everyday, even (especially) without ever sending it and receiving a reply. Your mind automatically does it, so goes the theory at least.

I believe Abraham Lincoln did this with some of his generals during the American Civil War.

I understand he'd write "never signed, never sent" at the bottom. I like that.

Does anyone else feel that posts like these are vapid? Not because the advice is obvious or rehashed. I actually think it's great to reiterate important points in order to reinforce them. The reason I feel these points are vapid is because they essentially are things we already know we shouldn't do, without a real concourse of how to truly sidestep them. I mean, a whole book can be written on how not to cry over spilled milk. So is a paragraph of empty emphasis effectual?

I feel like a lot of the startup posts on HN are pretty vapid. Oh great you're doing a mash up of these 2 services or a flappy bird clone... why do I care? I'm not going to use that.

"Choose not to be harmed and you won't feel harmed, don't feel harmed and you haven't been." (Aurelius, 2002, 4.7)

Aurelius, M., & Hays, G. (2002). Marcus Aurelius Meditations. Toronto: Random House.

> "A key employee quit. "

Maybe they felt unappreciated, or overworked. You employ them, you don't own them. Why is the modern workplace starting to sound more like slavery than a job?

"Why is the modern workplace starting to sound more like slavery than a job?"

I don't think this is a terribly recent development.

So one cannot feel frustrated if an employee leaves, or you're running a slave shop?

(I'm aware I'm exaggerating your comment. My point is OP can feel frustrated/angry if an employee leaves. It doesn't mean he's exploiting his employees).

I'm not suggesting that it is unreasonable to feel disappointed when an employee leaves. However if a "star employee" leaves... usually it means that the employee didn't feel like a star employee. You're dealing with other individuals who have different goals in life. Don't expect them to be exactly like you or be completely dependent upon you.

Walking is the only thing that helps me some times. Somehow the activity of walking allows my brain to unstick on the things I'm pissed off about and see the other things that are related.

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there's something about how this piece resonates with me. I'm not a founder or work for a start up; but it connects to me and I'm not sure why?

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