I feel like a breakup with a long term girlfriend is bad enough, let alone a breakup with a wife and kids.
I've learned through all my strife that you have to learn to love the toughness to get you through it. Learn to love the strength. Crumbling and feeling sorry for yourself is a slippery slope and will only make things worse.
Working on this startup was a way for me to reclaim my identity, to redefine who I was. It was very therapeutic, and hey, one of the great things about programming is that you get to feel in control, right?
Two years of nights and weekends and the divorce was all her fault?
Yes.
Some things (whether they be true or not), should be kept to yourself. You can make your point about stress without bringing in the guilt of your ex (when she cannot defend herself)
Couldn't agree more, which is what makes what I said ironic.
I thought it was a more tongue in cheek statement.