"Create a place that doesn't rely on alcohol or negative jokes"

An extremely short summary of an extremely long post is don't fraternize or fornicate with your direct reports.

If you run into someone who doesn't understand why (perhaps myself when I was younger) then they're stuck reading this for 30 minutes.

Other than that, her boss sounds awesome, which is really too bad.

"He asked what I had done to change things.

I was speechless."