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asking why someone doesn't drink doesn't imply condescension

But it conveys "outsider" status and puts someone on the defensive. Would you like to be asked "Why?" every time you oder a drink?

If someone avoids alcohol there are 4 options: -he dont like it -religion or family tradition -he got sick after it -he is total wanker after few pints and he dont want people to see it

When someone is not ordering alcohol people might think the last one - and that's from the start bad omen.

I fully support people not drinking alcohol but unfortunately I find out that most people dont drink because inner them is coming out.

It is about the context. Given that it probably happens when everyone else is intoxicated slightly, it probably doesn't seem condescending to the person asking, they are just having fun, being warm and friendly but since he doesn't drink they might seem like assholes. See his last point on that.

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