Maybe you are right and I am just cynical. But I have felt that some of these groups (with the exception of working class poor) are tolerated because of their success potential than for their status as individuals. And even with that a large number of people appear to disdainful of unsuccessful people in these fields.
And about the only people who seem to like the working class poor are politicians who see them as a voting bloc of sorts.
(In this case for instance - living in the midwest puts me into contact with a very large number of people who's beliefs align nearly perfectly with the television narrative).
One thing you have to remember is that in general, Americans are culturally one of the most generous nations in the world. Broadly speaking, that includes foreign aid and domestic welfare as well as voluntary charity. But at that same time, the US is an industrious nation that prizes hard work. It's a fine line to walk and people fall through the cracks in the system.
Nevertheless, it's extremely uncharitable IMO to suggest that the poor are "hated" in America.
Broadly speaking, no, foreign aid given by the US is barely top 30 per capita.
[0] http://www.prb.org/Publications/Articles/2002/AmericanAttitu...
US ranks #21 in Foreign aid and is 1/5 Sweden.
http://www.statisticbrain.com/countries-that-give-the-most-i...
Welfare # GDP US: 14.8 Sweden: 28.9
Giving we are #1 in monitary donations but it's only 1.85% of GDP in the US. http://www.forbes.com/2008/12/24/america-philanthropy-income... "Based on volunteerism alone, the Netherlands comes first, followed by Sweden and then the U.S."
Both sides of the media play on peoples' emotions. The real question is: are you intellectually honest enough to entertain views and thoughts for their own merit without dismissing them flatly just because "they're from Fox", "John Stossel", or "Romney".
IMHO it's just a bit of cynicism.
Even those who "hate the poor" here don't hate the poor, they hate the lazy. They simply equate being lazy with being poor. But if you're poor and working (or even poor but not imposing on society) then even the right-wingers I'd know of would have tons of respect.
If anything the desire for status seems to be reviled more and more in America too.
Not having won isn't the problem, it's being satisfied and not playing the game which society shuns.
The startup set are almost all wealthy, if not in assets then definitely in schooling, parenting, confidence. Where did all the most successful entrepreneurs grow up, go to school, what professions are their parents in. It's a pretty homogenous group really.
The poor are treated like shit in the US (and in most of the world), and their concerns and opinions mean nothing to those in power.
I think your perspective may be out of focus.