Say over the course of 10 years you replaced 1 of the millions of cortical columns in your neocortex every minute or so with a functionally equivalent computer chip. You would never stop being you. Your consciousness would never be interrupted. You would simply become something greater.
This is already happening in a very limited way with the various brain implants used to treat Parkinson's, hearing impairment, blindness, strokes, head injuries, etc.:
I don't think Samantha is a slave. Note that Theodore is not shown paying for Samantha. He could as well have partaken in a free beta program. She also asks for time for herself, does not sound slaveish to me.
There were many places where the story could have gone, but Jonze decided not to go there: privacy, hacking and trust, malfunctions, AI doing stuff for you that you did not explicitly asked for and Theodore suing the company for that.
Jonze simply decided to accept Samantha as a real person in a love story, and go from there.
I don't agree with you that "Her" is not a brave film just because it did not raise issues that you had in mind.
By the same reasoning we should stop all work on improving the world out of envy of the people who come after us. Those people who will enjoy longer and healthier lives without cancer, poverty, crime and environmental pollution thanks to the progress we're making today.
[1]http://lesswrong.com/lw/pm/identity_isnt_in_specific_atoms/