This rails bashing is becoming a cliché, so here's another one - use the right tool for the job. I've worked on rails projects happily serving 100req/sec with the servers running at 20% load. I've got friends who work on J2EE sites which take 10 seconds to render a page after the app server's done talking to all its zillion little useless ESB friends. Is ruby faster than compiled java?
I currently work on a combined rails/node site - we use a rails API to feed a node-served front end. Works beautifully. Why is the API using rails? Because in my opinion, rails is far more mature, and one rails API dev can keep up with three node front end devs. Would the decision be the same if speed and efficiency on the server was of topmost priority? Probably not, but it wasn't. Hell, the DB is the performance bottleneck anyway.
I have nothing against node and will probably use it in an upcoming project where server effiency is the topmost priority but geeze, right tool for the job!
And another point, while I'm ranting - I am coming to see node as the obvious choice for consumer (free) and rails as the obvious choice for B2B/SAAS (paid). Why? Because hyper-effiency is much more important for the former to keep cost per user down. With B2B, if you've got so many paying customers you need another rails server, you throw a party!
Oh, and even the node devs I know deploy using capistrano. There's that right tool for the job thing again.