The Dating Ring Is Raising Money To Fly Women From NYC To SF
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The dating situation is so bad for single men in their early to mid twenties on the west coast that I'm starting to think it's worth bailing on the area entirely and moving to NYC just for that purpose. (Palo Alto has got to be magnitudes worse than SF which is still pretty bad).
At first it looked like the situation in NYC was even worse for women with the 150k vs. 50k difference, but the population of NYC is 8.2million where SF is only 805k. Still dramatic, but not nearly as bad.
SF to San Jose - I've also heard LA isn't really better, but I guess there's the central coast.
There are twice as many single men as single women in LA. Exact opposite of NYC.
I suspect the reason that dating sucks in the Bay Area is because the Bay Area attracts guys (and women, but to a lesser extent) who are overly concerned with how they're perceived by others. After all, everybody is chasing the latest hot startup that will make them wealthy and famous. That same insecurity - and the same insecurity that would make you bail on an area just because there are no girls - is massively unattractive to women.
I spent a year and a half dating around, including some very hot women. After realizing that none of that mattered and the only thing important was how I felt when I was with her, it took me all of 3 weeks to find a partner.
My impression from living here isn't that it's people worried about their status, I think it's just that there aren't enough people - do you live in the bay area?
And my point is that there are enough people around that getting dates should not be a significant problem. I went out with about 25-30 people before finding my girlfriend; to get to that involved about 200 OKCupid messages. There were about 5 dates in the 3 weeks before and 3 weeks after I first met her.
During the Gold Rush, the gender ratio was about 50 men per woman. It got better with the years, but party organisers kept doing their damnedest to get women to go to their balls, inviting (and arranging for travel for) women from as far as Missouri, over the Pony Express.
Another possibility is that there's no first-order[0] geographical arbitrage opportunity presented by gender imbalances when men seek men and women seek women.
[0] there may be "second-order" abritrage opportunity, in terms of sub-types of men or women.
Open question: where do men here in SF try to meet women?
As a man, I have yet to see such a lack of single women in the city that would necessitate a project like this, even when I was dating around for 9 months.
Me thinks either standards are too high or don't go far enough out of your comfort zone. I could imagine being wrapped up in a startup, eat, breathing, sleeping it. And yes, not too many single women in the startup scene.
But startup != San Francisco, though it may seem that way from the news media.
Offline is the way, obviously, but ain't nobody got time for that.
The meta: know what you really want. Sex, companionship or kids: select up to two adjacent goals. Pick all 3 if you have a second condo and a burner phone.
(and if you really think that "men" don't fall for being told what to eat/wear/say you're horribly, sadly mistaken)
I'll just leave this here.
http://search.dilbert.com/search?p=Q&lbc=dilbert&uid=7339291...
2. Waste of resources/emissions. Sure, the effect of this is negligible since the planes will be flying anyways, but in principal this just seems like a huge waste of resources.
3. Given 1, it seems that this "date" is really just going to be mostly one-time affairs. Which is cool. But why not just find a date locally or hire an escort.
I am a man and went to a college that was 55% men and 45% women. I never felt like there was a lack of women.
In your college of young adults, suppose 30% of the population is already paired, which is 15% of each gender. That leaves 40% available men to 30% available women, a 1.3:1 ratio, not too bad.
In New York City's adult population of all ages, suppose 86% of the population is already paired, 43% of each gender. That leaves 10% available women chasing 4% available men, a 2.5:1 ratio, quite lopsided.
I thought you guys were supposed to be smart.
Protip for men: Davis, CA not during summer has the highest concentration of unmarried, college educated, single women of any college town in the US, outside the Boston metro. Thursday night is salsa night at The Grad. Get your silly colored sunglasses and go.
The other trick is to have women fly out to meet you, oh wait, that one has an API now. :) Seriously, distance is another "barrier" so it is good for the stationary party (not that kind, the human kind).
curl -X POST https://thedatingring.com/api/v1/women -d '{"hair": "brown", "interests": ["me, duh", "froyo", "kale"]}'
=> {"flightNumber": 1525, "airline": "United", "departureTime": 201403051250, "arrivalTime": 201403051545}
Any service that takes money from people by preying upon their dreams is inherently evil. This doesn't solve dating because it's unsolvable on purpose. Unplanned spontaneous clicking probably won't happen when it's the advertised goal. Joining interest groups on meetup would be infinitely better.