Hacking how to find a life partner

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5 points·tuxguy··6 comments

Stories like this perpetuate a slowly dying myth -- that people are naturally married and should feel unfulfilled if they're single. Some people are very happy married, but the vast majority aren't (they're either unhappily married or single), and that may be a natural statement about the human condition.

In the U.S. those who are single are increasing and are approaching an absolute majority, and a majority are either single or unhappily married. There may be a reason for this, rooted in the human condition.

Source: http://www.census.gov/newsroom/releases/archives/facts_for_f...

Quote: "53.6%: Percentage of unmarried U.S. residents 18 and older who were women in 2012; 46.4 percent were men. Source: America's Families and Living Arrangements: 2012"

(53.6 + 43.4) / 2 = 48.5% overall

Maybe we should work on making it easier to be happy, married. Because raising children is definitely a better proposition with more than one parent - better outcomes for everybody.

Yes, perhaps, but it's well-established that having children strains a relationship like nothing else. The simple way to make it easier to be happily married is not to have children, but this advice will likely not be followed -- it contradicts human nature.

That strain is maybe due to a dysfunctional idea of marriage at present. That can be changed.

Yes, in a two-step process:

1. Make people aware that marriage isn't remotely how it's popularly portrayed -- it's more a business arrangement than a romantic fantasy.

2. Popularize the idea that it's natural and expected, not a problem to be solved, that nearly half the population is single.

The 2nd is your opinion. Lots of single guys I know are miserable. There definitely an under-served population here, and saying its natural and expected isn't the whole solution.

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