"Honey I love you but i can go through that ordeal i had last time again. I love my life here and i don't want to go we're going to have to find another way."
If you can't be straight with your husband you might as well divorce now it's not going to get easier.
This woman is Pakistani. An Islamic marriage (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_in_Islam) is between a man and the wali of a woman, who gives her to the husband to be his wife, NOT a contract between the two members of the marriage. A wali is a "guardian" of a women. (or really, owner) The bride does not even need to be present when the marriage contract is signed.
>Honey I love you
She does not appear to love or even like her husband.
Disobeying her family is punishable by death. It also brings great shame to her family and can endanger her mother for example.