Darwin's Children Drew All Over the “On The Origin of Species” Manuscript
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I'd like to think if I were in alive his time and lived in his neighbourhood that he's the kind of man who could tell a fantastic story, dazzle you with his knowledge and various ideas, but above all be humble enough to treat you with the same respect.
I wish I could say the same for scientists today, so many I've run into are so focused on their own area of research that they have lost the ability to relate that learning and wonder they see to anybody who isn't just like themselves.
The reason? I never married. I never had children. Life is complicated enough without looking for trouble.
But joking aside, I personally must say that the chaos that having children brought to my life is a positive aspect of the whole experience. It keeps me from becoming complacent and has forced me to develop some intrisical organizational habits and discipline.
:) Computer games are no problem -- they never say, "What have you done for me lately?" Win or lose, you can walk away.
I emphasize I'm not pretending that my choices are suitable for anyone else. To each his/her own.
You've never played an MMO...
It's true, I confess it. :)
My favorite South Park episode is the one where the boys spend their time immersed in World of Warcraft -- http://www.southparkstudios.com/full-episodes/s10e08-make-lo...
Married (and childrened) people often try to convince those who do without that they too should indulge - "you don't know what you're missing". If you came to the decision that a family isn't important to you, then you'd also be horrible at it (resentment can be a big issue). When an "unfamilied" person declares how pristine their life is, why can't they stop there? Your "without looking for trouble" phrase turns your personal choice into a religious battle ... there was no need.
As for how your comment ties into the post shared here? It doesn't. My kids have defaced my papers (and sometimes the walls of our house) ... they're now cherished keepsakes!
Not my experience. For years, when I was younger, I was pressured in many overt and subtle ways to be married and have children. A number of friendships eventually ended because my unwillingness to be married was a deal-breaker.
On hearing me express my lack of interest in marriage, one guy asked, "When are you going to start living up to your responsibilities?" That was the day I found out what "proletarian" means.
My favorite story in that connection was the day a woman I was dating confessed that, contrary to outward appearances, she had chosen me for my intelligence and was doing all she could be become pregnant by me. I instantly ended the relationship and began to seek a vasectomy.
But then the fun began -- most doctors refused to perform the vasectomy because I wasn't already married and I hadn't already had "my children". Others insisted that I had to get my wife's signature -- no wife, no procedure. One doctor initially agreed, then, when he discovered I wasn't a member of a minority group, refused.
Finally I met the ultimate western doctor who, on hearing my request, launched into a seemingly rehearsed speech that began, "Your sperm belongs to the state, son." I regretted not recording the conversation for posterity.
Then I heard about Planned Parenthood. They gave me a short speech about how the procedure was irreversible, then performed it.
Since then, since the vasectomy, on a couple of occasions I've had women say, "I'm late! And I think it's yours! Okay, I might have forgotten just this once to be disciplined about birth control, but haven't you ever been swept up in passion?"
That's why I'm a Planned Parenthood supporter. :)
Life certainly is complicated, but the good stuff never comes easy (or cheap). You can stay single, be happy, and hide from yourself. Marriage and kids drags you out of bed and forces you see the light of day.
Again, I'm not pretending that my choices are for everyone, but I think the case can be persuasively made that an equal number of people hide from themselves by getting married as by staying single.
My point is that there are a great number of "right choices", not just one.
Sure, you can shoot it down with counter-examples of bad parenting, bad spouses, bad children, etc.. Still, there's nothing like it, and it's worth speaking about the positive aspects of heterosexual marriage in a forum dominated by, quite frankly, people like you who have an irrational, negative, and hostile attitude towards non-gay marriage and families, to the extreme point where mutilation of your reproductive system is an acceptable choice.
Yes, there are a great number of "right choices", but some are objectively better than others. A lot better.
Very true, and in the long term, there's nothing but it -- only those who make this choice are represented in the future population. The rest of us live on, not as organisms, but as memes.
> Yes, there are a great number of "right choices", but some are objectively better than others. A lot better.
Surely you understand that that sentence contradicts itself, yes? If one "right choice" is a lot better than another, this means there's only one right choice -- the choices aren't equivalent, or even comparable.
> Still, there's nothing like it, and it's worth speaking about the positive aspects of heterosexual marriage in a forum dominated by, quite frankly, people like you who have an irrational, negative, and hostile attitude towards non-gay marriage and families, to the extreme point where mutilation of your reproductive system is an acceptable choice.
Ah -- now I get it: choosing not to have children is mutilation. I read your post out of order, but in sum it makes its point very clearly.
To those reading this thread who expressed doubt that there are people who refuse to accept any choice but marriage and children -- hey! I found one, and there are many more.
[1]:http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/5/5f/Tolstoy_-...
[2]:http://biblioklept.files.wordpress.com/2013/05/tolkien-manus...
There's some notable exceptions by the way, you can't have a post on academic handwriting without mentioning Dijkstra:
http://www.cs.utexas.edu/users/EWD/ewd13xx/EWD1300.PDF
Funny, I hadn't recently read the article I linked before posting it, and in the first paragraph he actually explains why he writes so prettily. Although the context is programming notation:
"[..] the underlying idea of which is that, even if you have only 60 readers, it pays to spend an hour if by doing so you can save your average reader a minute."
I have a daughter and when she asks what I'm working in, I try to explain it. (Usually Maths or Physic. Apparently, I always start the explanation with "It's complicated. ..." because she mocks me.)
For example, I think that the topic of artificial selection is easy enough to explain to a child, and it's not difficult to make a drawing about it.
Charles Babbage. Neat.
Starting on Sunday, it says:
Sick from half-past 12 to 5. 9 or 10 __ ___ copiously ___ ...
Took only ____ 2 raw eggs ...
Eliza __.. afternoon
slept tolerably but much flatulence.
had an egg + toast this morning.
feels [sic?] pretty well.
"or the Preservation of Favoured Races in the Struggle for Life."
This was the best news of the day. :)
OK I will learn my lesson and try to remain on topic. Thanks for the pointer.