My philosophy has morphed into seeing video games as a waste of my time. I could be building something, reading a good history book or novel, learning more about x in computer science, OR getting closer to my friends and family.
I have a friend who tells me that I need at least one trashy addiction in my life. For a while I thought his argument had some merit, but I just don't agree with him anymore. I feel most alive and happy when I'm pursuing activities that increase my understanding of the world, open my eyes to ideas I hadn't considered, or brings me closer to my friends and family. Maybe video games can be these things for other people, but not for me.
As a divorcee who spent all my time sitting next to a man who was playing games, watching tv, etc and ignoring me, I don't really recommend you play games as a cheap assed substitute for actual attention from him. It accomplished absolutely nothing in my marriage. If he won't pay attention to you at all, sitting next to him while he ignores you isn't some kind of improvement.
Sorry you are dealing with this.
Now, I don't play as much as I would like because of work and personal life. It also helps that most of my firends aren't gamers.
IMO, it's the finest and most flexible medium that currently exists, taking cues from a lot of the others. I'm an amateur video and board game designer and developer. It's hard to play games because of this, as I am always playing games with a "research" and "critical" perspective. I force myself not to replay games and try to only play games "that matter" and that "have something new", whatever that may mean at the moment.
I find it very sad to see so many HN'ers say they are "wasting their time" with games. There is a lot of crap, but some game are well worth the time. (As it is with everything -> Sturgeon's Law)
So, to answer the question, I was addicted in the past, I'm not anymore. But I would gladly be addicted again (in the good way :) ).
Most games stop being fun when you make a spreadsheet for them, Eve is one of those few exceptions. Right around the time I stopped playing Eve, I started finding it difficult to play games just for fun without trying to min/max every aspect to gain an advantage. I guess I was really addicted to the meta-game rather than the game itself.
I uninstalled everything and made a conscious decision to grind by learning and living. Sure, I still zone out with video games from time to time but I start to get uncomfortable after an hour and stop, very casual. For me, I realised I was wasting my life and it was making me unhappy.
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Now I avoid them entirely, run desktop linux, and try to spend my time on things like violin, writing, reading, and coding.