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I explicitly meant not doing a fair share of chores when I talked about "being a dick".

WRT chores that are manly: Which are? Let's assume that car[s] either absent or don't need fixing and there's no lawn.

I am not going to prescribe what chores are manly and panty wetting when we disagree on premise of what "fair share" means. And yes, you can redefine the problem such that you think there are no obvious manly chores left in your apartment, but I think that is left up to each couple.

I think you should reconsider your phrasing "dick" as well as your concept of "fair share". Both appear pretty sexist and derogatory to me.

Have a good evening.

Maybe "dick" was too harsh. Maybe we can agree that labour divide is hard and when one side tries to only do things they perceive as manly (when other side doesn't limit herself) he may run out of things to do.

Almost. I agree dick was too harsh, and in fact, it was shaming. And I do think that if one "side" is not contributing resentment can build up that no one wants. I do take issue with the notion of "sides" and I think it should be left to each couple, working as a couple to determine what fair contributions are, and shouldn't be left to popular culture pundits to declare that this is the era of 50/50 sharing and only regressive neanderthals would think otherwise.

I'm out, I have to do a Costco run.

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