Many mention they can't think of cases where gender would come up in discussions. While it doesn't often come up, there are some discussions where personal anecdotes leads to the inference of the gender of the author.

Personally, in my AFK life and online, I treat women with the same respect (and critique) as I do men. I also don't know many people who would treat people differently based on their gender. Well, obviously disregarding the case for romance/relations..

I do understand the interest in women in fields like tech and gaming. It certainly is something that can pique ones interest when a person of the opposite gender shares the same interests as you, but that doesn't mean you need to treat them differently unless otherwise hinted.

The only people I can think of that do (treat women the way the OP describes), are also people that are generally awkward in social settings, so it's not gender focused per se, just a bit more apparent there, maybe.