1. Hacker News usernames became a blur of random characters quite some time ago. I don't know how I'd begin to tell what gender you all are, and it never enters my mind. 2. I really don't think there are that many people who care whether you're carrying the batter or the oven. 3. I don't know how to say this nicely, but you - not your gender, but you the individual - are sort of known to be a little sensitive to this, in a way that comes off a bit attention seeking. If you feel this is your message to bring, then great. More power to you, really. Just saying, this seems like one of your things.