He tried to shame her and degrade her for having shared her story instead of doing something else.
He's an asshole. Fuck him.
(To be absolutely clear, I am not a fan of criticizing the author for handling or not handling the situation in any particular way.)
I might be reading that all wrong; certainly I am being charitable to meritt and giving him/her the benefit of the doubt. There is a decent chance that I've gone to far, and that you are entirely correct. However your "charitable" reading of his/her post is certainly not the "most charitable".
There are ZERO emotions in Merrit's comment. I understand you are upset about this, but really Merrit isn't the bad guy. You should think about why and try to not blame others for how you feel about it. This type of behavior isn't healthy for any of us.
Sorry I called you an asshat. I hope you figure it out.