More generally, if you aren't tied down with family obligations, move to Silicon Valley.
The average rent for an apartment in San Francisco stood at $2,243 in the third quarter, up nearly 12 percent from one year ago; in San Jose, the average rent also jumped 12 percent to $1,622, said RealFacts of Novato, which tracks rents in mostly large buildings across the nation.
.... A few years ago, after the dot-com implosion, landlords welcomed pets if it meant filling a vacant apartment. But Fougner, in his mid-30s, said online apartment searches turn up few that allow pets. Even then, he said, prices are usually at the very high end of his range - around $2,500.
Meanwhile, he has stopped going to open houses; even when Fougner would show up 15 minutes early, he found five or six people waiting.
"We might just end up getting a spot for $2,400 or $2,500 (a month), which will just make me sick every month writing that check," Fougner said. "But if it's not a dump and has a patio, then we'll want to stay home more anyway."