> ~18% of fathers are the custodial parent. Shared custody favors the mothers in most circumstances.
This is correct, the overall rate is low. However, this doesn't take into account rates of fathers seeking custody. About 50% of fathers seeking primary custody in divorce cases are granted such custody. It should be noted that fathers generally do not see primary custody as frequently as women in these cases, which skews the overall rate.
> 60% of of fathers (regardless of custodial status) are required to pay child support to the mother.
I don't dispute this. However, rates of payout are different from legal obligation to pay. Any person, man or woman, receiving child support are more likely to only receive some partial sum of child support, if any. Moreover, there is already income inequality for women in general in the US, this will have a bearing on whether or not fathers, who are statistically more likely to be better paid, have to pay child support.
> On average, women are awarded more child support than men -- Women also receive 85% of all child support paid every year.
As you yourself noted, women are much more likely to be performing primary custody and care for a child, we would then expect that women receive more child support then men in such an arrangement. As I mentioned before, this is a bit misleading as many people don't receive full amounts of child support or have some kind of informal support arrangement that is not court ordered.
> Then why are we pushing campaigns to teach men not to rape but not women? Why are colleges around the US putting students through rape awareness education only telling men not to rape?
Rape and sexual assault is overwhelmingly committed by men. Prevention messages and campaigns are targeted this way for this reason. That is not to say that they deny that women can commit sexual assault, but rather that a primary problem is behaviors committed by people who are men. Campaigns that focus on women's behavior are not addressing this fact.
> As for redefinitions, feminists pushed for the recent FBI expansion that makes forced fallatio rape but not forced cunnilingus.
This is not true. The new summary of the change for the FBI includes: "or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without
the consent of the victim".
> They also pushed for the definition to be forced penetration by the accused, excluding cases where a man is forced to penetrate by the women.
The FBI definition still has problems, for sure. It focuses far too much on penetration as rape rather than non-consensual sexual contact. However, there were a wide variety of voices, feminist and not, that noted this when the FBI made its change and are continuing to call for more change. Like I said, there are many voices in feminism, some of which call for things that are shortsighted or don't make sense. To claim that this is wholly representative of feminism is what creates a strawman.
> Please tell me more about derailing by insulting.
As a man you do not face systematic discrimination and power imbalance due to your gender, that is why I mentioned it. When someone complains about men online, you are not seriously impacted due to your gender.
> As usual, those voices (despite being some prolific and vocal, really being the face of feminism today) are No True Scotsman'ed out of being feminists.
I made no such fallacy. Those voices exist and are associated with feminism. However, they are not the total representation of feminist voices and to make it seem as though they are is not talking about serious issues in good faith.