HAH! I had a friend one day in tears because her bf had some porn on his laptop. She was shocked, outraged etc.
She owned a dildo.
Some people have horrific double standards, unless people make a stand against censorship (unlikely) or their desire for porn (even less likely). This is only going to get worse.
That does happen. The likes of "Nuts" or "Zoo". Most of those lads mags are as pornographic.
The double stardard is that if a straight woman has lots of sex, she's a slut who should be ashamed; yet if a straight man has lots of sex, he's a stud and should be congratulated.
Nuts and Zoo and what have you have photos which are intended to be sexually enticing, ergo they're [soft] porn.
Generally the demos can control [via the government, to an extent] the production of works intended to be pornographic but not the private use of pornography.
There are also reasons to believe that watching porn might in some scenarios affect the viewer in negative ways that abstract sexual fantasy does not.
Reasonable people can of course disagree to the scope and accuracy of the above objections, but I'd consider neither fundamentally unreasonable.
Masturbation on the other hand is almost universally considered a normal and healthy part of adult sexuality.
Basically just because someone might find porn degrading to women or morally objectionable, doesn't mean they in any way oppose sex and their own sexuality.
I'm sure there is pornography created by people who want to make it. I'm less sure there are dildos created by anyone who wants to be making dildos (the actual workers, not the boss).
I'm sure some people would find a wife using a dildo as degrading to the husband and morally objectionable. Probably most of the middle east. That certainly doesn't give me the right to call it bad, though.