Research Finds Firstborns Gain the Higher I.Q.
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The social expectations on the first born may cause them to concentrate harder perhaps, who knows. And while its a large sample its from a particular source that may include systematic biases. If smarter younger kids managed to get out of military service in disproportionate numbers that would skew the results.
"In the study, Norwegian epidemiologists analyzed ... military records. ... the researchers found that eldest children scored an average of 103.2, about 3 percent higher than second children (100.3) and 4 percent higher than thirdborns (99.0)."
103.2 more than compensates for 99.0.
Since Norway has mandatory military service http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Military_service#Norway , this does not refute jokes about "military intelligence".
(Full disclosure: I'm the eldest in my family).
There's something to it, e.g. MIT students are overwhelmingly eldest or only children, but I can't see how individual observations like you and I can make would be able to distinguish a 3 to 4 point IQ difference.
Finer measurements and larger sample spaces are required, I'm sure.