I am imagining some kind of add-on to DD-WRT or derivatives that will put up a real-time graph of devices on my home network and draw lines representing outgoing TCP and UDP connections while also logging them in a tabular format. Both forms would be clickable to drill down for more details (including session packet captures if enabled) as well as set policies like a per device white-list of acceptable IP addresses to connect with.
I know all of this is possible with individual tools like tcpdump or wireshark and ip-tables configs, but that is too painful. I'm looking for a robust GUI on top of all that.