One of the biggest advantages of living in a time of so many people is that the number of great people, in absolute terms, is also greater

Most people want the same things, it is not hard or unique to find someone compatable, no matter how much we tell our partner how special they are, and they say to us.

did you ever consider that some (many, actually) people are not optimizing for long term mating strategy, and are rather playing the game to maximize short-term sexual rewards?

or does that simply not exist as a valid goal in your worldview, because you refuse to acknowledge its legitimacy?