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This is the most important reason why Chinese family members don't love each other that much. You never know if your relatives are just nice to you or they are after your money. It complicates everything and when things go bad they go really bad.

If managed well it can be great though. My college roommate has a "college sponsorship" program within his extended family which helps pay his tuition.

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I've had to think hard before replying to this. I don't think that's fair at all. I would agree that the Chinese put a premium on loyalty, and don't have as much of a culture of open expressions of affection, but that's mostly a matter of appearance and I've seen it break down many times. I'm not down voting you, because I can see how you might think that and in the general for all I know it might even be true, but it doesn't fit with my experiences of my own Chinese family.

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