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Comment by HeyLaughingBoy | Hacker News Reader

I can see why some people find it disappointing, but why would you find it humiliating?

Disclosure: I met a lot of women online (including the one I married) and generally enjoyed it, but I'm always interested in hearing other perspectives.

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It's entirely likely that match.com's setup drastically reduces your response rate in a deceptive fashion. If you contact 500 people on match.com and not a single one responds, you'd probably be humiliated.

I wasn't humiliated from 1 date in 6 months with Match.com. I was humiliated briefly with eHarmony when I fell for a fake letter of interest. I was very excited and I emailed all my friends "Hey look this is great!" Then I slowly realized over the course of the week that I had been duped. I received no further response and was embarrassed. It should have been obvious with the spelling mistakes and the woman being listed as a High School English teacher :) I'm moving to offline approaches. I should get out more any ways. I may try okcupid or something in the future.

Interesting... I met my first wife online, more than 20 years ago, well before the web, over a Minitel-based chat system accessed via an Apple II (mine) and a Matra dedicated terminal (hers).

I met my second wife at a party.

I must be truly disconnected from my time.

Hey, I don't get the humiliating part either.

Why are you disclosing that you met and married a woman online?

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