Short film set entirely on a teen's computer screen
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The bond between those two parts doesn't really work for me. And it seems like he just ran out of ideas for concluding the Facebook paranoia/break up scene so he cheated with the speech.
It's like a bunch of people see this movie is completely on a screen and it's this hard hitting revelation that relationships are now on screen and so this movie perfectly encapsulates a young person's relationship.
The speech didn't seem like filler to me. Perhaps you haven't wasted enough time on ChatRoulette and the like ;)
The truly shocking thing to me is no-one in this thread has yet commented about it. This is frustrating for two reasons:
1) It is so normalized that no-one felt the need to even comment about it -- as if it's not bizarre
2) 'Studying' is presumed as a boring, bad thing. Is this what college students are like? Studying a lot is bad? Asians studying a lot is 'the worst thing'?
I emphasize it not apparently being a problem is a big problem -- this is how racism is perpetuated.
Yes, most college students want to study only the week before midterms and finals, so they can maximize their free time with friends. And I have seen Asian friends complain about other Asians for "living in the library" and "being too Asian".
(I was in an Asian fraternity at a 25% Asian campus...)
Yes, everyone's racist today, and the new equality is being an equal-opportunity racist. It's a brave, new world.
Consider also that he's going on to bigger and better things while she's apparently going to be stuck there (presumably she would have followed if she could). So her disdain for studiousness wasn't portrayed as particularly virtuous.
I found the line about "stinking up the place with her pork dumplings" a little over-the-top and unrealistic. I don't think I knew anyone in school who would have said something like that, though I'm sure people talk like that somewhere.
The stereotype about studying more than average is something I've heard plenty of people say about Asian students. Being a stereotype, it obviously cannot be 100% true, but there are decent reasons it might be partially true. For example, international students may have more at stake in getting an American education. And of course cultural differences in parenting that are a cliche to mention at this point.
I disagree with the other commenter that the protagonist (if you can really call the unsympathetic main character that) dismissed the racist remark. He seemed to agree, though the character was sort of sycophantic -- I can easily imagine him agreeing with everything she said just to please her.
Finally, yes, negative attitudes toward studying are extremely common in college. There's plenty of variation between schools and within schools (as suggested by the character's remark), but the idea that teenagers are lazy about schoolwork is ubiquitous in pop culture. I'm surprised that you're surprised.
Those who thought it was great probably did not have high expectations. The movie beat them.
You already saw websites saying how great it was, so your expectations were much harder to beat.
Happiness = Reality - Expectations.
The lesser the expectations and the greater/better the reality, the more the happiness. :)
(NB: I use this equation as a general rule for my life. In fact, I put it in one of my first HN comments: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=5932133)
To me, this film felt much more like a stylistic proof-of-concept than something that's been realized. Having Noah change the status in Amy's account served the plot but not the story--it was a quick shortcut that got the film to the length that those who created it wanted, but it struck me as unrealistic.
This had a higher level of production behind it than The Scene, but The Scene--at least what I watched of it--did much more exploration. Granted, they're about different things, but this seemed much more glib. I think it was really more about how to execute the idea than about the content, where I feel The Scene explored the content better. I don't think either of them got it right, but I really appreciate the attempts. I'd love to see more exploration of this sort of thing.
It really got me to cringe during the mouse hovers on the buttons though. That was pretty great.
I will say though, the way he didn't really pay attention to her in Skype is similar to what I experience in person... with regards to people texting. I make a conscious effort myself to not text while with another person, and if I do text, I make sure to pause if they talk to me.
Or maybe the younger generation does multiplex much more than we've been accustomed to (I'm also 25 and don't use facebook).
No offense, but that alone puts you into a small minority.
He saved the link and closed it when they started talking.
Yes, I see it happening fairly often on my campus. Especially in very large lectures for introductory courses.
I automatically lose any respect for anyone if they do this a few times in a conversation without warning. Infuriating and disrespectful. When you start texting during our conversation I lose the will to continue speaking.
People invented the "everyone's phone goes in a stack in the middle of the table, and if you touch it you pick up the check" custom because they find it so rude that people check their phones during dinner conversation.
When you're with someone, pay attention to them. Sure, if there's a long break in the conversation and neither of you has anything to say, maybe you can check your phone. But don't start checking it during an ongoing conversation; that's rude. That's a way of telling the person you're talking to that they're less important than the random minutia of facebook, texts asking if you're up for COD, the latest score in the football game, etc.
There are obvious exceptions. If mom's in the hospital due to a heart attack, or your best friend is stranded in the flood zone and you don't know if he's made it onto a helicopter yet, it's OK to signal to the people you're having a casual conversation with "hey, this is important enough that I'm willing to cut you off mid-sentence to keep up on it."
Because they're old and trying to apply old customs to new situations, instead of adopting new customs. No, not every single bit of dinner conversation will be riveting, and it's natural for our attentions to wander. So we alt-tab from the conversation into other sites, sometimes bringing something new into the conversation. This act is also a highly effective yet passive body-language signalling technique -- it allows us to more definitively signal our disinterest in the topic-at-hand without interrupting the speaker or others listening, and if everyone is on their phones it tells the speaker to change topic or let someone else speak.
So, please don't do what you're advocating, humans have not fundamentally changed; you're going to hurt people.
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Also, dismissing things because they're old is going to ill-serve you, especially as a technologist.
Dismissing things because they're no longer relevant has served me quite well as a technologist.
I doubt it was seniors who came up with the phone-stack, and it's definitely not seniors who have spread the idea on social media. I see it spread by 20-somethings and even teens who are sick of people being rude by ignoring them.
It might be different if it was used to signal disinterest, when someone is just droning on and on. But people dive into facebook/texts/whatever on their phones even when they're interested in the conversation, and even when the person speaking has barely started. It's like a compulsion. A rude compulsion.
But think of when the first time you saw any kind of pornographic or erotic material was. Did your parents know? Were the next n years of your life composed of, in part, hiding that fact from your parents? I found a porn mag in the park once when I was maybe 9 and the next several years of my life were filled with confusion and stifled curiosity.
Being that I'm Indian my parents did not want to even think that I would ever want to know anything about women until age 30, when they would marry me to one of their friends' daughters just after we both finished our residencies. They thought that through denial and obstinance they could force the world to be a nice, pleasant reality. The only thing they communicated to me is that they were unable to help me with any of my "real" problems so I would have to seek answers elsewhere.
So to me, not having a frank discussion about what exactly the Internet has in store for naively inquisitive minds, including a journey through the perverted forest of cocks that is chatroulette, seems like a decision that serves you more than it serves your kids. I would implore you to investigate whether its your own discomfort that you're trying to avoid, rather than upsetting children who will invariably see penises before you want them to.
To me it seems likely that something will happen that will disturb them and leave an impression -- this could be an accidental glance at something they weren't meant to see, a discarded piece of porn, driving past an adult bookstore when the door is open, or it could be something more intentional and malicious.
Wouldn't it be great if they were prepared for those moments, instead of being caught clueless and unaware?
Don't add anything useful like, say, why you think it's terrible. Just go ahead and post a passive-aggressive, oblique insult at my life experience and what I've learned from it.
Bonus points for framing it in a way that asserts your right to exercise an option I clearly articulated and invited you to in my first sentence.
I don't know why OP is concerned about keeping his kids away from chat roulette. Seems to me that HN is the home of the dicks.
I don't believe any of those affected me in a negative way. It would be weirder to be shielded from all that, and then suddenly be exposed to what the real world is like when you leave for college.
This runs the risk of being pedantic, but that comment was neither oblique nor passive-aggressive. It was just plain aggressive.
I don't think making a PG edit of this video would be any different than the radio edits they make to songs or tv edits they make to movies so the FCC doesn't kill them. Anyone who enjoys the edited version but would still like to check out the original is free to. I would never tell an adult what they can and cannot listen to or watch. Have at it. But I do like to keep a certain level of appropriateness for my kids. If you want to show this to your kids.. have at it. You're free to do as you feel is best for your kids.
There will come a day when the sex talk happens. It will probably come sooner than I would like but I'm not blind to the reality that kids find out about stuff from friends before their parents. But I don't think the sex talk needs to be wrapped into a more general talk about the dangers of the internet and digital communication. There are more things to worry about on the web than cocks. I'd like to address those things with my kids without cocks. There will be plenty of time for us to talk about and look at cocks when it is important to the subject at hand. IMO, it is not that important for this topic.
The creep factor of Chatroulette could still be portrayed without actually showing the cocks. The creator chose to show them. Fine. That was his/her choice to make. That just limits the audience a bit.
I don't think of it so much as "sheltering" but more like waiting for the appropriate time and way to talk about certain subjects.
As mad as everyone got at me for having an opinion (one that I am certain is not unique)... I can only imagine how angry you'd get if I treated your opinions the same way. I feel like some of you want to come to my house and force me to show the video to my kids.
I think people perceive that as being a facet of modern suburban parenting with a historically lopsided set of priorities. You may disagree with them, and that's fine, but to accuse them of wanting to come to your home and force you to show the video is a truly bizarre overreaction.
Your kids will see dicks, period. They can either see them with you and you can talk to them about that, explain possible dangers, emotionally support them and create the atmosphere of trust and openness to make sure that your kids come to you when there is something confusing or even dangerous... or you can leave your kids to see them on their own while you live in some kind of illusion that you have protected them from the things you did not want them to see. That is the only real choice you have.
Honestly, if small kids see this, they won't understand. It is up to you to show them another way.
I'd posit that that the harder you try to shelter a child from something, the more shocking it is when they inevitably get exposed to it. You hope that maturity will help with the exposure, but that may not always be the case.
Notice that there are two seasons, you can access the first one here: http://www.welcometothescene.com/download.php
And of course, there's also "Welcome To Teh Scene". http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Scene_%28miniseries%29#Paro...
* Catfish [movie, USA] - http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1584016/
* Black Mirror [series, UK] - http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2085059/
Both a little on the bleak/dark side, forewarning!
I am old enough to have lived the same situation depicted here on two different communication media: IRC chats and BBS + CB radio before that.
The difference is that i experienced communication overload in a time 1990->2000 when such experience marked you irrevocably as a geek.
Today this is open to the masses.
thanks
Things I didn't like: Noah was a scummy person for whom I had no sympathy (not paying attention to his gf, lying, breaking into her account, having no sense of subterfuge at that, using chatroulette), the girl's obnoxious and clichéd speech at the end, and the numerous exaggerated aspects. And I would argue a lot of this video is exaggerated, like the ridiculous music- "cuddle jams" played immediately when Noah starts feeling down.
Overall, I'm not a fan of the video.
Are you suggesting that this was the message of the OP? That's not what I took out of it.
The More You Multitask, the Worse You Get at It
http://priceonomics.com/the-more-you-multitask-the-worse-you...
Oh and I liked the film itself.